Female comments are encouraged and appreciated. Add to the list and if you have a blog, website or even just a personal ad, I’ll credit you in the next set of tips.

I’ve met more than a few girls online from personals sites. Some of them have been a lot more attractive than the stereotype. There are several reasons - guys are afraid to hit on the pretty girls in person, we’re almost all more comfortable talking about sex and especially unusual fantasies online rather than in person, some girls are just tired of the bar scene and other singles outlets in the “real world”.

Here are five quick tips from my experience, specifically for guys. (This is the first in a series, so subscribe for more tips later.)

1. Stick with sex sites:
   This may go without saying, but I’ll say it anyway since some people do seem to get confused. Honestly, it doesn’t matter where you go, you’re still going to run into women that want “more than sex.” You’re even going to run into women on sex sites who don’t want sex at all. (I’ve gotten this a few times on the site that bills itself specifically as “The World’s Largest Sex and Swinger’s Personal Site.” Apparently those girls wanted swing dancing partners. On the other hand, you’re going to see people on regular “dating” sites getting pretty explicit. And you may do something I did once - meet a woman on a sex site and end up married.

   All that said, your chances of getting a strictly sex relationship, a “friend with benefits” or something along those lines are much higher on the sex sites. Sex on the first date? Chances are much higher. Looking for a one-nighter? Chances are much better. Getting spammed by website whores, cam whores and outright whores? Unfortunately also much higher.

   On those regular dating sites, you’re much more likely to end up banned if you do things like make explicit requests for sex, write graphically about sex or post graphic pictures. And getting banned often means losing the membership fee.

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2. Post a picture:
   This one is almost a no-brainer. So you think you’re not attractive enough? The message of posting no picture is probably far worse than the reailty.

   Should you post a nude or graphic photo? It depends a lot on what you’re looking for, but frankly the women that are offended by them are probably not what you’re looking for. Here’s a rule of thumb - if you want to find the kind of woman who posts a nude shot of herself, she’s probably the type who wants to see one of you, also.

   What about posting your face? That depends on what industry you work in, your family, friends, etc. If your church wouldn’t approve, you should probably change churches. But if your boss wouldn’t approve and some woman doesn’t understand that, to hell with her. If it’s possible to make your face picture viewable only by friends, as it is on some networks, do that.

3. Include your photos when you email:
   Especially when emailing nonpaying members, you should include your photo and profile details. Many sites limit what nonpaying members can see, in some cases not showing much more than your nickname, headline and age. The more of your profile info you include in your email, the more chance that you’ll get a response. Women outnumber men on these sites by a huge margin and the good ones get swamped with messages.
   Should you include nude photos in a first email? Judge by her profile. If she has a very explicit profile with lots of nude (or more) pictures, include your nudes. If not, you might go with letting her know that there are nudes on your profile. In fact, you might want to warn her of that so she doesn’t click through to the profile with a picture of your hard cock as she sits in her parents living room checking her email.
4. Use your Instant Messenger ID as your name on the site:
   As much as possible for social/sexual purposes you should try to use the same ID/username everywhere. The first thing I do when I see a ladies profile that I like is send her an email on the site. Some of the best sites make it really tough for nonpaying members to reply. One in particular that I’ve had really good luck with does allow nonmembers to accept “friend requests.” If a lady accepts my friend request and doesn’t have her IM names listed in her profile, I check Yahoo to see if that ID exists with the same location, etc. Why? Not because I’m trying to come on too strong, but just because I don’t want a woman to have to spend $40 just to reply to my email. I send a polite IM saying “Hi, I think you are PrettyLady69 on XYZ.com also. You accepted my friend request today and I thought it might be easier to chat on here. Say hi sometime when you aren’t busy if you like.” I’ve had a couple of smart girls who were nonpaying members do the same thing to me rather than paying to email.
5. Be honest:
   You’re going to get much further with honesty than lies. Especially when you consider that everyone else on the site is there for the same thing as you - to get fucked. Don’t claim to be a millionaire - you’ll look like an ass and a million bucks doesn’t make your cock bigger. Don’t use someone else’s photo - after all the goal is to eventually see someone in person.

   You want a one-night stand? There are women who want that, too. Want a friend with benefits? You’ll find one. Got a specific kink or fetish? You aren’t the only one. Unles

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