It may be a bit of a no brainer, but one of the first places you should start if you’re looking for sex online is in the social networks. Now that doesn’t mean trolling MySpace and commenting on every hot girl you see. You could spend days doing that. Trust me…

Why would you want to sign up for social nets? For guys the answer is simple – maximizing opportunity. With guys outnumbering girls in just about every online sex oriented venue, the guy who succeeds may not be the most handsome or the most charming, he may just be the guy who posts his profile on 30 different sites.

Girls may think, “I don’t need to go more than one place since there are so many guys.” And that’s fine, but there’s always the old quality versus quantity dilemma. Sure, guys probably outnumber girls 3 to 1 on whatever site you choose first, but after you sort through the deadwood you may find that you’d have been better off to have 5 times that many options.

The bottom line for both is that putting yourself at the center of an expanding network gives you the best chance of meeting the right partner (or partners) for you.

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There are two types of social networking sites to check out. The first type I’ll call the “mainstream” and the second are, well, sex oriented. The way you handle the two are different.

Mainstream networks have a couple of advantages for this, if you can play by the rules.

1. Your boss isn’t going to click on your face pic and get a view of your cock, your friends aren’t going to hate you, your mom isn’t going to wonder where she went wrong, just because you put “Dating” as your reason for being on MySpace. If you can handle a little beating around the bush, you can find what you want.
2. Sheer volume. There are lots of people who wouldn’t feel comfortable with a profile on a sex oriented site who are perfectly at home on Facebook and who are still interested in a good time.
3. You may find people who you share other interests with. Sex is great, but you might find a job opportunity or your next golf partner, too.

There are three big cons of the mainstream networks:

1. Once you start actually talking to somebody off these sites you’re going to have to dig a little deeper to see if you’re compatible, especially if you’re into kink. Since the profiles are a little tamer (though not always that much tamer!), it’s a little harder to know just how well you are going to click.
2. You’ll have to pay more attention to the rules. Nude photos? Probably not allowed. X rated photos? Almost certainly out. Explicit sex talk? May not be appropriate.
3. You have to be careful who you talk to. For those too dense to get it – you’re going to have to look at the ages on the profiles so you don’t end up meeting Chris Hansen instead of who you really want to meet. So, she looks twenty and has the “HotSlut” in her profile name, that doesn’t mean she’s legal. All of that should really be obvious, but if you’re on the prowl for sex on one of these sites, you need to be really careful to avoid interacting with kids at all, because it’s just creepy even if all you do is say “Hi.” ‘Nuff said.

Then there are the sex networks. The advantages are simply that the rules are much less restrictive and the talk is much more open and honest. The big disadvantage is in the small numbers of people and the relatively high proportion of spammers (though even MySpace has a big problem with spam).

So, how do you hit the social networks? It starts with two things. Putting yourself in the best light and putting yourself in the most places. Then you build on that by taking a page from the people promoting their products, services and websites through social networks and you link it all together.

Before you start, the first thing you should do is pick a username to use on all the sites and profiles. Try to pick something original enough that you can use it most places and then pick one or two alternates to use if you absolutely must. Get a new email account under this name - I suggest a gmail account – and IM accounts at the major services (AIM,MSN,Yahoo) with this name if it’s available. (A Google Talk account will be included with the gmail account.)

The next step is putting yourself in the best light by planning out what you’re going to say and post. More on that tomorrow.

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